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Feeling Self-Conscious? 6 Tips to Turn it Around Fast!
When you feel self-conscious it means you are putting too much attention on your self, too much focus on what you are doing and how you are doing it. And this is a formula for poor performance. The secret then to dealing with this problem is to become other conscious. If all you do is shift your focus from self to others you will communicate better, perform better and become a far better listener. Another positive consequence is that other people will enjoy spending time with you because it is so obvious you give them your complete attention. Your goal is to become so fascinated by other people that your focus is on what they say, how they say it and why they say it. 6 Tips for Becoming Other Conscious: 1. Pay attention to the way people breathe, watch closely and observe the relationship between breathing and speaking. 2. Listen not just to what people say but the way they say it. Pay very close attention to speech patterns, changes in tempo, volume and tone. 3. Ask thoughtful questions to understand the way others think. Really strive to grasp why others think what they think. 4. Whenever your focus shifts back to the way you are behaving ask yourself questions about the other person so you need to pay attention to him e.g.
5. Use your imagination to change your mood and to keep your mind too occupied to be self-conscious. You could for example imagine that the people you are talking to are wearing no clothes or inappropriate clothes. Why not have some fun, feel good and still enjoy a good conversation? You owe it to yourself to find as many ways as possible to feel good. As I have said before excellent communication skills are more dependant on your mental and emotional states than on clever language patterns. 6. Use affirmations to condition a new belief about your ability to be relaxed and other conscious. For example:
About The Author Peter Murphy is a peak performance expert. He recently produced a very popular free report: 10 Simple Steps to Developing Communication Confidence. Apply now because it is available for a limited time only at: http://www.howtotalkwithconfidence.com/report.htm
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