ComputerHunter.org

 

How To Make Date Conversation


What do you talk about on a date? Is it okay to just listen and nod attentively or are you expected to take an active part in the conversation?

Do you get nervous at the thought of going out with someone new? When you think of going out on a date, is it like 'been there done that' or do you think of ways to wow your potential new love? For those of you who are super confident, you can stop reading here, but for the rest of us (who could use a little help), following are some basic guidelines to follow to help you make great date conversation!

1. Listen to what the other person is saying.

Don't pretend, nod without listening or zone out - pay attention to your date is saying to you! If you decide to keep seeing him or her, she'll be grateful that you remember that her grandmother raised her or that his mother makes the best apple pie in the world.

2. Pick up on conversational cues.

Most people are dying to talk about themselves, and you are the perfect listening audience! If your date casually mentions that he used to play football in college, ask him about it. Or if she mentions that she used to be the 'bomb' back in the day, draw her out in conversation. You could be just the friendly ear he or she needs to remember those old 'glory' days.

3. Have something to say.

Think about what you want to say. Practice some things in your mind. And please don't give in to the TMI (Too Much Information) Syndrome. You may have started off talking about your cat, but, believe me, he does not want to hear about the interesting places Fluffy deposits her little hairballs! And, guys, please don't tell her all about your last girlfriend - she is gone for a reason, don't resurrect her for your new date's benefit.

4. Don't talk about sex on the first date.

Yes, I know we all break this rule sometimes, but you're better off leaving sex out of the conversational rotation. Why? Because once you go there, it's hard to get back to regular conversation. And where does talk about sex usually lead? To more talk about sex and deeper revelations until all that's left is to try it out! So, leave it alone until date four or five and, for tonight, tell him or her all about the last movie you saw instead.

5. End on a positive note.

If you mistakenly mentioned your Aunt Hortilda and got a bit carried away describing her obsessive toe nail clipping, redeem yourself by changing the conversation as soon as possible! Laugh at yourself for mentioning such a thing, talk about something positive and leave the date on a positive note. Don't overstay your welcome, don't end the conversation by dogging out your boss or your new sister-in-law and definitely don't share any deep personal revelations (like the fact that you were molested at age 2) on the first date. You can and definitely should talk about those things with someone you are seriously involved with, but that takes time. Don't let that be the last thing your date remembers about you at the end of the evening.

So date and have fun! Enjoy yourself, keep it lighthearted and make sure you keep the conversational ball rolling. But, most importantly, be yourself!

Sonya C. Triggs is a contributing author to Urban Christianz Ministries. Visit this website to find more great articles and advice for Single Christians!







Google News - Top Stories

Wall Street Journal

Fannie, Freddie Capital Concerns Prompt Paulson to Take Control
Bloomberg - 50 minutes ago
By Dawn Kopecki and Alison Vekshin Sept. 7 (Bloomberg) -- Treasury Secretary Henry Paulson decided to take control of Fannie Mae and Freddie Mac after a review found the beleaguered mortgage-finance companies used accounting methods that inflated their ...
Video: Obama Calls for Changes in Mortgage Giants AssociatedPress
Loan Giant Overstated the Size of Its Capital Base New York Times
Reuters - Los Angeles Times - The Associated Press - MarketWatch
all 2,103 news articles


Canada.com

Powerful storm raises fears from Caribbean to Gulf
The Associated Press - 1 hour ago
KEY WEST, Fla. (AP) - "Extremely dangerous" Hurricane Ike grew to fierce Category 4 strength Saturday as it roared on an uncertain path that forced millions from the Caribbean to Florida, and Louisiana to Mexico, to nervously wonder where it would ...
Video: 'Dangerous' Ike Aims for Turks and Caicos AssociatedPress
Cuban coast the likely brunt of Hurricane Ike MiamiHerald.com
Palm Beach Post - Tampa Tribune - The Times-Picayune - NOLA.com - United Press International
all 2,755 news articles


BBC News

Sarah Palin criticizes Biden, Obama
Newsday - 2 hours ago
BY TOM BRUNE | tom.brune@newsday.com COLORADO SPRINGS - Republican vice-presidential nominee Sarah Palin yesterday challenged the reform credentials of her Democratic counterpart, Joe Biden, contrasting his many years and many friends in Washington ...
Obama zeros in on Palin's early earmark acceptance Chicago Tribune
google news commentComment by John S. Baick Professor of History, Western New England College
Wall Street Journal - CBS News - Boston Globe - The Oregonian - OregonLive.com
all 5,571 news articles


Sydney Morning Herald

Bhutto widower elected Pakistani president
The Associated Press - 48 minutes ago
ISLAMABAD, Pakistan (AP) - Benazir Bhutto's widower swept Pakistan's presidential election on Saturday, offering hope for stability to a nuclear-armed country feeling intense US pressure to crack down on Islamic militants.
President-elect Zardari prepares to be sworn in AFP
Pak army unlikely to pressurise Zardari Times of India
International Herald Tribune - Tampa Tribune - New York Times
all 3,248 news articles


CTV.ca

India, US Push to Seal Nuclear Agreement Moves to Congress
Bloomberg - 1 hour ago
By Viola Gienger and Jonathan Tirone Sept. 7 (Bloomberg) -- The Bush administration and business interests that overturned a three-decade international ban on India's right to buy nuclear-energy supplies will take their campaign to Congress this week.
Congressman slams NSG Hindu
Nuclear suppliers endorse Bush proposal to give access to India Winston-Salem Journal
Los Angeles Times - New York Times - Times of India - BBC News
all 1,902 news articles

Google
 

Copyright © 2006 Computer Hunter - A Division of Arthur´s Job Base